Have you ever given a second thought on how a fight between any relationships starts? Where the flow of words originate? How they affect the other person? Why the anger initiates by itself and grows predominantly? Have you? If not, here’s a simple episode.
Any relationship works on the keyword “Trust”. And it exists only if balanced well. Well, balancing the words unspoken and the emotions expressed. You ask for a bike and your dad refuses. You ask for your favorite dish and your mother screws the usual taste. You ask for money and you brother forgets. You trade the dress and you sister steals it (unintentionally though). You explain something and your grandparents assume something else. You demand an answer and your girlfriend/boyfriend ignores it. Do you notice anything common on the above mentioned day to day episode in a persons’ life? If you do, it’s the words not spoken and the emotions that are fueling.
By emotions I don’t mean Love, Lust, Compassion, Acceptance and Surprise. By emotions I mean Sadness, Anger, Fear, Disgust and Anticipation. True that if emotions are un-expressed it leads to problems. But what happens when expressed more than usual? What happens when the other person is hurt by what you have expressed? What happens when you express something insane when not spoken to? It in turn BREAKS the relationship. It creates a gap which is so much unnecessary. It develops and the gap widens and the trust is finally broken.
So what if the trust is broken? Why do we even care? Why does it hurt? How does it bother you? When will you not stop growing? These are the questions that have to be answered. When the trust is broken the other person is shattered. Not literally but it in turn takes a very long period to build that trust back again. In some cases it never happens again. And the most fought about reason in any relationship is because of Over-Possessiveness. Possessiveness is the Poison. It leads to imaginary situational problems. When you imagine, you assume. When you assume, you conclude. When you conclude, you fight. And when you fight, you let out words. Not so deserved words, which are tough to digest. And then comes the climax: Tears.
How do you sort?
Actually, the right question here is, who are you to sort? Why do you even require an answer for other persons act? Since when did you think you were the genesis? My dear fellow social animals, please, like the famous service providers tag line goes: hearts reach when barriers are broken. Break the barriers. Not the hearts. Reach with words. Not with emotions. Be subtle. Not tough. In a nut shell, try in being a kid. Avoid the situation which warrants trouble and rub it aside. And let me not hesitate to quote my most favorite lines from a poem:
And miles to go before I sleep.
And miles to go before I sleep.
